BROKEN MOLD

August 8th, 2018

Occasionally, when we wish to highlight how special or unique something is, we say that the mold broke.

“They broke the mold when they made you.”

A mold is used to create the same thing in a uniform way, over and over and over.  Breaking the mold means we must start from scratch and create something new.

But the phrase connotes something innate.  Something that came before someone’s eyes popped open for the first time.  And this is not as useful as it could be.

Many aspects of our lives and the systems which govern our days work like a mold.  We are molded by school to expect waking up early in the morning to then commute to some building where we are expected to do work for a good portion of the day.  The habitual practice of school molds us to conform to the daily 9-5 jobs that generally come after schooling.  Our behavior is not just the thing being molded by these systems and practices.  As with any behavior, it is rooted in our thought.  The environment that surrounds us and the systems it makes up molds the way we think to a large extent.

And much of this ‘molding’ is dissatisfying, and even depressing.

We may bemoan the fact that whoever made us before our eyes popped open didn’t break the mold so that we could be different and special in some admirable way….

Or we could look at all the aspects of our life that is trying to mold us.  Into a certain person.  Who does a certain set of things.  And we could wonder:  how do I break this mold?

A walk down any old shady sidewalk can give us a lesson in breaking the mold.

It’s easy to trip on such sidewalks because if a tree is nearby, chances are one of its roots has pushed the sidewalk up and cracked it.   Most all of us have had this experience. 

But has anyone actually ever seen the sidewalk crack in this way? 

No, and it’s because of how slowly, but consistently the tree grows.

With a constant pressure, and constant growing, the living flesh of a tree cracks stone and rock.

While it would be faster to take the proverbial sledgehammer to one’s life in order to crack up all the things that are molding us in ways we don’t like - in the same way we can FIREBOMB OUR LIFE, the tree root provides a bit more precision, if we are willing to be consistent and have patience.

If, for example, someone is dissatisfied with their 9-5 existence, simply quitting solves the problem immediately, but not for the long-term.  On the other hand, if such a person were to spend a little bit of every evening and the weekends planning something new, say a business, then slowly, with consistent work, and growth, such a person can crack through that job-mold.

Our own thinking is a sort of mold for our daily behavior. 

And if our daily behavior has lead us to a dissatisfying place, then we’ve got to address what’s molding that behavior. Often what's needed is a question. THE RIGHT QUESTION can crack an opinion in two and leave us in a much more interesting space where we must come up with a better thought, a better mold, and that will begin to change the way we behave. 

This episode references Episode 15: Firebomb Your Life, and Episode 19: The Right Question. If you'd like to fully understand the references please check out those episodes next.

HAWK AND THE HOUND

August 7th, 2018

The dog does not have very good eyesight.  At least compared to the nose.  Even if the ‘target’ can be seen, the dog still follows the scent, even if that scent takes it in a round about route.

Why?

The obvious answer is that the nose is a stronger source of information.  And maybe there’s not a super high correlative power between what is seen far off and what is smelled.  (Perhaps birds of prey are the exact opposite).

But there is far more to appreciate about a pooch with it’s nose to the grindstone – so to speak.

The Blood Hound is living exclusively in the moment and pivoting at an incredibly rapid speed as the nose dodges back and forth, following the highest concentration of smell.  It knows something is there, but more importantly, the hound doesn’t need to see the final destination.  The hound’s ability to suss out where to go on a moment-to-moment basis has embedded in it an implicit faith in the fact that the process works.

Unlike The Big Launch which is exclusively focused on some distant, future fantasy, the hound is working with what it’s got, in the present.

Consider also the Hawk.  Soaring high above with excellent vision.  Some prey is seen, and boom, the hawk goes into a dive bomb.  Poor little rabbit.

Do we imagine our endeavors more like the Hawk or more like the Hound?

Which would be more useful?

We would do well to note the difference in environments.  The hawk is floating through the air which has practically no obstacles.  The hound is perhaps navigating a forest where straight shots rarely exist.

Which environment is a better analogy for our lives?  A straight shot towards our goals?  Or a shifting terrain full of obstacles that are rarely seen until they are right in front of us?

The Big Launch is planned and executed like a hawk dive-bombing towards prey. 

But we do not live in a sniper’s paradise.

Being focused on some distant object can blind us from the sinkhole we’re about to walk into.

Best to sniff out some kind of success instead of imagining it and aiming for it.

Best to look around at what’s close, see what we have to work with: Stop and smell the roses.

Wake up and smell the coffee.

Never know.  There might be some curious scent to follow.

Who knows where it might lead, but a scent will tell you:

there might be something there.

If only we follow it, instead of plan it.

This episode references Episode 72: Perseverance Vs. Pivot.  If you’d like to fully understand that reference, I suggest checking out that episode next.

THE TUBE

August 6th, 2018

It’s easy to forget that a context larger than our own thinking exists.  Indeed a context exists that is larger than all human perspectives combined.  We are invariably trapped in our own perspective and the context it creates.

One way to visualize this is to think about something we all did at least once as a kid.  Walking around while looking through a long tube.  What does the world look like the longer the tube is?  What does the world look like the more narrow the tube is?

If the tube is longer and more narrow, our context becomes increasingly small.  It almost has the effect of ZOOMING IN.  It’s easier to focus on the small portion of the world we can see and our focus determines our reality.  In some sense, our focus determines who we are as people.

Identity could be defined as the mental context in which we imagine ourselves, similar to the visual context of the world we see at the end of the tube.  The word identity comes from a root that means ‘same’.  We imagine who we are on some sort of ultimate level of reality is the same as what and how we imagine ourselves to be.  But these two things are different and we perpetually forget it.  We can know there’s a difference because, sometimes, we surprise ourselves.  When it turns out we can do something we didn’t think we could do.  When we say something we’re impressed by.  These little cracks in the continuity between who we think we are and who we turn out to be show that who we are is greater than what we merely think.  We must remember this, and try to extrapolate on it.

Identity, or the way we think about ourselves, is a function of the words we use, just as our visual field is a function of the tube we look through and how long and narrow it might be.  Luckily, the same words that box us in with our thinking can be rearranged to form the tools to open up our perspective.  The words that build our own personal prisons can also be fashioned into keys to unlock doors or sledgehammers to BREAKTHROUGH walls.

Words can cleave open others, expanding less useful concepts into more generous contexts.   Words are like Aladdin’s genie in the lamp.  They can describe and design any concept we can imagine.  Just as they describe and design the self-made prisons in which we live, or the tubes through which we look at the world, those same words can be fashioned into a CLEAVER which can hack that tube down so we can see more, or hack our way through the walls that keep us. 

But first we must ask:  am I walking around looking at the world through a sort of tube?  Or are there specific subjects, or people, or situations that I look at as though through a tube? 

Often it’s not a bad thing to narrow our focus, to zoom in and concentrate.  But as most all of us learned as kids walking around looking through a tube, it’s easy to lose site of the larger context and trip and fall on something.

This episode references Episode 54: The Well-Oiled Zoom.  If you’d like to fully understand the reference, please check out that episode next.

A LUCILIUS PARABLE: STUBBORNNESS

August 5th, 2018

A young man approached Lucilius who was watering a plant in a neighbor’s garden and was asked why people are stubborn.

Lucilius  watched the soil around the little plant darken and sink.  He responded: “All are weary of who they invite into their home lest the guest make a mess of things. They fear not the mess, they fear the cleaning.”

“I do not understand,” said the young man.

Lucilius turned to the young man and asked, “have you ever entertained a good friend at your home?”

“Well yes, of course” said the young man.

“And when the party was finished, did you smile thinking on the good time as you put your house back in order?”

“But of course,” said the young man.

“You take out your fine china, and cook according to your plan, and when all is finished you know where everything is and you know the place where they must return.  There is no confusion.  And so even though there is effort to entertain a friend, it is not difficult.  Would you agree?”

“Yes, but what does this have to do with people and how stubborn they are?”

“We are reluctant to entertain guests who might make a larger mess than we like to expect.  Our fine china may break in such a mess.  Things long forgotten may be pulled out into the light unintended and when we put things in order we are confronted with these mistakes from the past.  Things do not simply return to the way they were before.  Entertaining Strangers  is risking the order of our homes.  This is why people only entertain ideas they already agree with.  To do otherwise is to think long and hard about a new order for our minds.”

THE LITTLE RED BUTTON

August 4th, 2018

What does the little red button signify?  In movies we see the little red button in control rooms for a launch, or underneath the desks of bank tellers, or in a special suitcase.

The little red button can be an abort button, or a panic button, or it’s the last step to launch something big.

It’s used for extreme events, when we are either retreating in panic or initiating a move forward with tremendous force.

Everyone has a mental version of this.  A little red button that we use.  But how is it wired?  Does it cue the frustration?  Does it release the floodgates of emotion and tumultuous language?  Do we always regret pushing the little red button, wishing it had some sort of locked cage over it?  Do we use that little red button to launch missiles in panic?

Or is the little red button something we eagerly look forward to?  Something we know we can’t push until everything is ready and set.  Something that has hushed reverence while we put together the rocket ship that will explore an exciting and new distant territory?

Imagine the young kid who has spent painstaking hours building her contraption, wiring parts together, fixing motors and wheels or levers.    Perhaps it all started when she came across a box of electronics and found a red button, unused, hooked up to nothing.  What did she imagine?  How inspiring could it have been to think about what that button could start.  And so she builds something and finally hooks up the red button.  Imagine that moment as she pauses just before hitting the button, like pushing the first of a long line of dominos.

We’ve got to ask, what’s our red button hooked up to?  An array of explosives that we’ve rigged for the next time someone pisses us off?  Or is it reserved for those special OCCASIONS when we’re ready to see what our hard work can do on its own?

This episode references Episode 105: OCCASION, if you'd like to fully understand the reference, please check out that episode next.