NOTHING IS FUNNY

April 5th, 2019

Young children will often laugh for no obvious reason.  Parents of children or teachers, siblings, and relatives will notice this if given enough time together.

The so called ‘adult’ will usually raise a jaded eyebrow with a bemused smile and detach with a conclusive ohhhh-kay.

The children are growing.  They haven’t developed their sense of humor.  Or something like that is proposed as the explanation.  We might wonder if such an explanation is actually true, or is it a kind of reasoned excuse to circumvent our embarrassed inability to jump in and take part in the fun?

Comedy can be a wonderful therapy.  Someone who has had no good reason to laugh in a long time can easily feel renewed when a friend drags them out to a good comedy show.  The jokes inevitably have little relation to one’s personal life and yet one can easily achieve a totally new perspective on life by benefit of a few punch lines.

Perhaps some people consciously or unconsciously withhold their willingness to laugh in an effort to seem more completely jaded or to display an intellect that is only broken by the smartest and wittiest of novel ideas.

One might wonder if such people are doing themselves a disservice by withholding their minds from the beneficial salve of laughter. 

We might wonder further about a connection between health and a willingness to laugh:  who is more likely to be healthier?  The person with a high threshold of humor, or the individual who will laugh at almost anything?

Regardless of the propensities that genetics and circumstance have handed us, we can always consciously invoke a smile.  The simple act, if sustained can change one’s mood, and often our mood, our current emotion is the biggest factor holding us back from what we’d be better off doing.

Just as kids can exercise the capacity to laugh even though nothing present is particularly funny, we too can hack our own head and smile for the mere sake of smiling, or rather for the contribution such an action makes to our overall brain chemistry, and any subsequent change in our perspective. 

Consciously failing to take things too seriously can free up our perspective in order to see that key missing detail that allows everything to suddenly come together.

PLANS & ROADMAPS

April 4th, 2019

Plans are not roadmaps.  Like instructions, roadmaps are representations of actual phenomena. 

Instructions dictate a series of actions that produce a certain result.

Roadmaps do much the same thing.  Roadmaps dictate a series of directions that produce a certain destination.

Take a left, go 4 blocks, turn right, first place on your left.

Boil water, add pasta, wait 10 minutes, strain and eat.

Too often we fail to remember the distinction between these concrete frameworks about reality and the imaginings we have for the future, i.e. Plans

A plan is a temporary manifestation of a strategy.  Both plans and strategies are dynamic entities.  This means that they change.  A strategy changes based on new incoming information that changes our model of the world or situation. 

A change in strategy must reflexively produce a change in plans.

If our plans fail to change due to new information, than there is either something wrong with our awareness, our understanding of what we observe, or the nature of our strategy.

However, if we have the capacity to notice new information, then it goes to follow that our awareness might not be too bad.  This leaves understanding and strategy as the culprits for producing rigid and brittle plans that fail to succeed due to a lack of flexibility.

If we fail to understand something, than there is likely a detail, or a perspective that is eluding our attention.  If we have recognized some potentially important information, but it is confusing or for whatever reason our strategy does not properly react to such information, we may need to consciously go back upstream and investigate more fully what phenomena our awareness has gifted us.  Discovering the right detail can make all the difference and click off a cascading set of understandings and ideas, and eventually, a new plan about what we can do.

Note however that plans are specific designs about what reality could be.  Roadmaps and instructions are concrete frameworks about what reality actually is.

The nuance concept of specificity here is the subversive bridge in language that fools much of our thinking about reality and plans.  Specificity is easily coupled with the concept of concreteness with regards to roadmaps and instructions.

The specificity of a plan is a feature of a tightly iterating strategy, not a definitive statement about reality.   

To illustrate this, we might think of a road trip.  Looking at a map, we trace along a highway and any twists and turns it might take to get to our destination.   We form a plan based on the frameworks we have at hand that we have good reason to believe accurately reflect reality.  We can note how specific the plan is based on this roadmap, but we can also envision other routes that lead to the same destination if we pretend that our preferred route does not exist.  Then we go on our trip based on our plan which is based on a strategic consideration of the map we have at hand.  Halfway through a mountainous portion of the drive however, we discover that a large portion of the road has been swept away in a landslide creating a drop off where on the map there illustrates a continuous road.  The new information we experience on the fly in real time instantly updates what we know about our map of reality: it was inaccurate.  The solution in such a physical case is obvious, turn around and find another way.  But in less obvious circumstances, much of our action is characterized by driving straight off the cliff.  We stick to our plan even though we’ve encountered information that dictates our plan is no longer wise to follow.

Plans are imaginative reconfigurations of possibilities that we form based on the concrete maps we have available. 

The specificity of both is crucial because one depends on the accuracy of the other, but staying tied to the specificity of a plan when we find the map is inaccurate can be catastrophic. 

It’s for this reason our plans must embody a somewhat paradoxical contradiction:

Plans must both be highly changeable and highly specific.

This is a grey space, a liminal or in-between space that people are generally uncomfortable with.

But if we can relinquish our obsession with security and embrace the unknown, we can inhabit this paradoxical space.

When we do, our strategy grows stronger through agility.  Our strategy gains the ability to redesign new plans as fast as we gather information, allowing our path to pivot more efficiently towards our goals.

This episode references Episode 285: Plan on no Plans, Episode 340: Discovering Details,, Episode 37: The Instructions Are Always Written Afterwards, and Episode 72: Persevere vs. Pivot

VIRTUOUS MISTAKE

April 3rd, 2019

The right mistake can produce a wonderful pressure to do the right thing.

Say for example we have a need to renew a passport or some form of identification.  Booking tickets for a trip suddenly becomes a huge motivation to go to the right offices to sort out the new identification.  This is not the intuitive or ideal order of operations, but the mistake of switching the steps makes the whole process move along much faster.

Saying the wrong thing at a business meeting might be a mistake that gets a person fired, but being freshly unemployed is a fantastic pressure to push someone towards a better circumstance.

Often such an occurrence is referred to as a ‘silver lining’, which is an effort to optimistically see the positive in a situation that is more easily categorized as negative.

But this simplifies the world far too much.  We can consciously initiate actions that may seem like mistakes in order to further benefit ourselves.

In fact, it might be better to blow past the ‘silver-lining’ idea and assume that all mistakes produce good results.  At the very least this will make a person far more likely to take action as opposed to perseverating over some static idea of what should be done or can’t be done.

It’s long been said that there are lessons in failure.  If this is the case than nearly all action outside the realms of violence is progress as long as we have the awareness to capture the fruit of a success and see the lesson in a mistake.

This episode references Episode 352: Order of Operations

ORDER OF OPERATIONS

April 2nd, 2019

The order in which we should do things is incredibly obvious in some cases and nearly invisible in other cases.  For example, putting on a shoe has a fairly straight forward set of ordered operations.  It would be counter-productive to tie the shoe before putting it on.

But the order of operations for solving algebra problems is not so obvious or intuitive.  The discovery of such order certainly must have taken some testing through trial and error.

If we extrapolate an attention to order to much larger operations in life, we can find very important questions that in many cases, don’t even get asked, let alone pondered.

For example, having the ability to reliably pay one’s rent with plenty money left over, would be good to figure out before having a child.  And yet surely there are many people who don’t compare the two and fail to see a relation between the two things. 

The virtue of asking such questions comes from the fact that if operations are well ordered, each achieved operation makes the next operation that much more easy.   Or in the case of tying a shoe, we can see that an operation might be fundamentally necessary in order to achieve the next.  This is certainly true in algebra, and it’s a safer bet to assume that it’s true in all cases.

We can see how an inability to follow or even ponder an order of operations spells failure in many cases.  The inexperienced gentleman who meets a lady with crass and vulgar proposals is near certainly guaranteed to have a short interaction.  But it’s commonplace to realize that such playful proposals exist positively in long established relationships.  In such cases, the order of operations was taken with a bit more of a mindful approach.

Just as we have an order of operations with regards to our social dynamics, our health and wealth does also.

Someone who wishes to bench press 200lbs should forget about such if 80lbs is still a struggle.  In weightlifting, the order of operations is more obvious, akin to tying a shoe, but with wealth, the order may not be as intuitive as we think, nor what is broadcasted.  Often our idea of wealth centers around our ability to display and showcase such wealth, as with a big and expensive house, or a fancy car, or luxurious trips to exotic places.  Such displays of wealth actually eat wealth and thereby make one less wealthy.  This negative feedback loop might not apply to the ultra rich, as there’s clearly an escape velocity for such a thing, but for the vast majority of people, this competition of wealth signaling is a counter-productive strategy.

Meanwhile, someone who is willing to cut all extraneous costs that make up the game of wealth signaling are inevitably going to actually have that wealth instead of owning symbols of a time when one was able to acquire such symbols.

An important metric for sussing out an order to one’s operations is utility.  We can highlight this by asking: is a Ferrari useful?  Perhaps it is useful in altering the opinions of people who see such an item, but this is a poor use of utility as a metric.  The average used Honda Civic is more likely to handle a wider variety or terrain over a longer time line and greater distance with a relative minimum cost of repairs when compared to a supercar which quite literally demands high maintenance. 

The gentleman looking for the fruits of some sort of relationship would do best to start with a comment that merely rises the probability that the conversation will continue.  Such a tweak in strategy increases utility.

And with health, the weightlifter might ask: what can I do today that will initiate reactions in my body that make me more capable tomorrow?  All questions of fitness essentially boil down to such a useful, if difficult to answer question, but thoughtfully answering it in the most narrow way possible allows a person to figure out an order of operations more quickly than someone who already has a set plan that they imagine will work.

The most perplexing aspect of such orders is that many things we undertake can be accomplished with different orders or operations.  The point is not to apply such questions about orders of operation to everything, but to filter everything with a question about order to see if it’s an important aspect to consider before beginning.

This episode references Episode 285: Plan on no Plans.

TRIGGERED

April 1st, 2019

Good songs can quickly gain a sour edge when a relationship dissolves that was associated with the discovery of such a good song.  When once the song functioned like a kind of anthem for good times, the reminder of such good times can evoke a barrage of sadness and perhaps anger.  Music in this case is perhaps the easiest and most ubiquitous example of this phenomenon, but in recent years, more and more people seem to be similarly triggered by far less than the melodies and lyrics of a bygone phase of life.

Single words can trigger people.  While there are classic perennial examples of such words, mostly in the form of slurs, many individuals seem to have adopted a similar reaction to a greater variety of words.

A more approachable example of this exists in the Harry Potter books.  He-who-must-not-be-named is a euphemism for Voldemort, the name which the protagonist has no problem saying, and for good reason.

We alone as a species give words their power.  And because of this, we alone can take that power away.  If a word exists more in the imagination than in practical use, than it’s associations remain static.  It has no chance to evolve because it is not used, and because of this, powerful, rarely spoken words retain their power.  We can see this occurring on the level of society and on the level of the individual.

The only way to dismantle the power of such words is to reclaim them in new contexts. 

The paradox in doing so is that attempting to use such words in new contexts is bound to trigger people who are unaware of the effort.  It’s uncomfortable because strangers have no quick way of deducing the intentions of each other if actions and behavior are counter-intuitively matched to intentions.

Groups of friends, however, will adopt all manner of impolite speech for inside-jokes and bonding in general.  Such groups are exploring taboos in the same way children are always pushing the envelope: in order to find and know the true limits of a given situation.

When it comes to the good song soured, it’s fairly easy to simply listen to it, over and over, until it’s washed of any negative emotion.  In essence, by pulling the trigger on such emotional ammunition, we exhaust our store and in so doing, we reclaim what we’ve lost.

While civility is an endless gift to us against violence, words are not physical violence, and in the case of language, we might be a healthier people if we give our verbal taboos a little light and let linguistic civility slide a little.  By airing out such closeted skeletons, we can diffuse our general triggered nature.